Uggh - I could feel the anxiety rising in me reading these experiences of yours, so familiar and similar to my own. It is uncanny how they all have these same behaviors. Another thing that your description reminded me is how they pick at every single thing you say or do and turn every simple unobtrusive question, answer, or statement from you into an argument, and then claim that YOU are the argumentative one. It is really crazy making. I'm so sorry that you, too, have had to deal with the nightmare and its after effects. Wishing you healing.